My abuser ( my older sister ) Mary told me I'd realize my ex-boyfriend was the reason we weren't talking, that he had to be behind it all.
Now that we're broken up, I know more that you can love people in your life so much but you don't have let your patience be taken as obedience. You don't have to accept lack of consideration, aggression, subconscious & conscious disrespect, someones disorder being reason for them to disrespect you, nor do you have accept the bare minimum just because you understand that person's circumstances.
You can be there for yourself and know when to go.
I realize that after, there's more effort from him to do the things he was too tired to do whenever we were together during this breakup, like just reading with me but that doesn't fix everything that happened. It doesn't fix the memories of everything else either.